If you want to get the best out of your marriage and enjoy spending time with your spouse, you need to get home. Living with your parents or squatting is not a palatable thing to experience; having space to yourselves will give you the necessary headstart you need in marriage. However, getting a home is not without its difficulties. From getting the best space in your chosen neighbourhood to agreeing on what type of home you want to getting sufficient funds, the difficulties abound, but with the right strategies, you can overcome them. Here is how:
Agree with your spouse on the type of home that is most appropriate for you
As a couple, your tastes may differ as individuals. But you should not let your differences get in the way. This is the time that you have to be more united. Your choice of a house will mostly be affected by the size of the house you want, the size of the family you want to raise, the comfortability and quality of the house, the architectural quality of the house, etc. For instance, you can decide to get a medium-sized cosy apartment if you both plan not to have kids yet, but to enjoy intimacy with each other. Personal choices of space also matter. If one of you likes a lot of space and the other prefers something cosy, you may have to settle for a medium-sized one.
Agree with your spouse on your budget for getting home
Finances are key in determining the type of home you get as a couple. This is a very sensitive area. You both have to consider how financially buoyant you are as a family before choosing a home. If one of you wants something on a high-budget and the other reasons that such is too expensive and will cause financial strains, this lack of understanding may lead to disagreement. And you do not want that. If such is the case, make your partner see the reasons for your stance and the benefits it will bring you both in the long run. Your budget also determines if you will be a homeowner or tenant. This is where your goals as a family influence your decision. You should own home early on in marriage before you start having more responsibilities when the children are present. Learning about home décor and creative designs will also come in handy as you would need to know how much to budget for it. You might want to hire an interior decorator or do it yourself. Doing it yourself will require having the knowledge and buying the right materials.
Agree on the proximity of your home to your various families’
Some people like that their home is near their relatives for ease of relationships, while some prefer that they move far from friends and family to start a new life together with their spouse. It is important for you both as a couple to settle this difference early on in your marriage. If both of you are of opposing views, you need to reach a compromise quick. For instance, if your spouse wants to be with you yet stay around their family and friends, you can agree with them but have some days for getaways, where you both spend as much time as possible with each other away from peering eyes. If you feel you are under pressure by any of your families to stay around their vicinities and you do not want to, you have to take a strong stance together with your spouse; kindly let your families know that you do not appreciate their interference.
Agree with your spouse on what you will do with your home
When getting a home, you should share each of your intentions for the home with your spouse. Asides finance, size of family, proximity to relatives, etc, the type of work you do also determines the type of home you get. For instance, if one of you is involved in ministerial or charity work and has dreams of their home becoming a haven for people, you cannot but a small cosy apartment if you are buying a home, neither can you rent a small-sized house. To realize your dream, you have to carry your partner along every step of the way. It would seem distrustful to your partner if you get a big home under the guise of the intended size of your family when you wanted to accommodate other members of the society.
With a proper understanding from both sides, couples will get over the difficulties of getting a house and fully settle into proper family life.